You can feel it coming — the holiday ads are everywhere and decorations fill stores. Even if you love the holidays, it can be a stressful time. Adding to the stress are concerns over illness (a possible COVID uptick, an unusually severe flu season) and dealing with gatherings with opinionated relatives who seem to get louder every year.
“No matter how much you plan, something is bound to go wrong. The holidays are part of life and life isn’t perfect,” says Nelson. “There is plenty to cause stress. Everything is more expensive this year. You’re bracing yourself for at least one or two uncomfortable moments among relatives who haven’t seen each other since the pandemic began and who want to discuss the latest election results. You’re having everyone over to your house for a big family meal. What could possibly go wrong? Instead of feeling holiday goodwill and cheer, all you feel is stress and frustration.”
When feelings of exasperation well up, Nelson advises taking some time to relax. It could be as simple as going for a walk or watching cute animal videos on social media. Both activities have been shown to reduce blood pressure and heart rates.
Nelson also suggests exercising at least two or three times a week.
“We tend to eat more during the holidays and then feel guilty and stressed after we do,” she says. “Exercising can offset the added calories and stimulate endorphins that give you a sense of wellbeing. Also, make an effort to arrange a night out with friends you enjoy being around. Make it a ‘no-gift giving’ evening — a definite stress reducer. Do something to help others. The feeling you get when you give with no strings attached is the best feeling in the world.”
Above all, Nelson says don’t try to please everyone.
“It won’t happen. That’s not even the point of the holidays,” Nelson says. “It’s a time to be grateful for the people you love and to show compassion and caring with the community around you.”
If you begin to feel overwhelmed, Nelson suggests taking a deep breath, stepping back and reminding yourself of what a good and worthwhile human being you are. She adds, “Decide to enjoy the holidays with a happy heart, however imperfect the holidays may be.”